Avoid Wedding Drama: Special Situations And Invitation Wording

Avoid Wedding Drama: Special Situations
And Invitation Wording

There are some families that may have different members in
them, some that wedding books and etiquette guides are
struggling to keep up with. How can you include everyone in
such a way that all are equally important?

Well, to a certain extent, you can not. There’s only so much
room on an invitation to include everyone in your life, but for
those that you must, there are ways to handle the step and
passed on parents in an invitation.

A step up

When it comes to step parents, most couples feel as though they
are no different from their biological parents. So, they want to
incorporate them into the invitation as well. And while
traditionally, the parents are included, how do you put in
everyone’s name?

Many invitations start off with “Mr. and Mrs. So and So would
like to announce the marriage of their daughter Blah Blah to
John Doe, son of Mr. and Mrs. Smith.” In order to include both
sets of parents, you can just add them in at the beginning and
end, denoting it with son of Mrs. Smith and her husband Bill
and of Mr. Whatever and his wife Something.

It may sound awkward, but it can be done. Other couples have
chosen to just include the names of their biological parents,
referencing their present last names. That works just as well.

If there is a parent that has been absent for the child’s life,
then they do not have to be put into the invitation.

When someone has passed on

If one of the couple members would like to include their parent
that has passed on, they can say something to the effect of ‘son
of Mr. Smith and the late Mrs. Smith.’ That works just fine. If
both parents are deceased, you may want to note that as ‘son of
the late Mr. and Mrs.’

If someone has recently passed away, then you may want to
include that as a separate note as a way to let your guests
know and avoid any awkward moments. This is especially true if
it was a recent event.

When in doubt about a tricky situation, do what feels right for
you. A lot of the time, you can write and rewrite the wording to
include everyone and still satisfy you. Read your words aloud—a
lot of times you can see what something sounds like to a
reader, and then judge your choice from there.

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